Okay, I am no expert at being a working mother just yet. After all, I've really only qualified as a working mom for the last couple of months, but I am succeeding at it. I also might add that its getting much easier as the weeks go one. Heck, I've even been able to throw in an exercise routine and time for reading now that Emily is feeling much better! While I may be new to this role I'd say that what I am doing is working and all I've done are a few simple things...
1. Do not take work home. One thing I never ever ever do is bring work home. No matter what I leave undone or important thing sits on my desk that is where I leave it at the end of the work day. It is a firm rule I've laid down from the first day and no one questions it. I don't get paid to work from home. When I am with Shawn and Emily I am with them and not working.
2. Its okay to leave some chores undone. I frequently leave the clean and dried clothes in the dryer (who cares about wrinkles) just so I don't have to stare at a pile of laundry some nights. Instead of dirtying dishes I've been known to order takeout some nights.
3. Share the load. Shawn is amazing at carrying an equal load. Some nights he will cook dinner while I put Emily to bed. Other times he will wash dishes while I am folding laundry. It is also a huge help that Shawn is sometimes home during the week when I work and able to pitch in when Emily cooperates.
4. Shut off the phone. It is so important to "unplug" for a portion of the week. If its important they will leave a message and you can call them back. No one needs to feel they are constantly connected and weighted down by other people, especially to work.
5. Don't schedule too many things. Even scheduling time with friends and nights out can stress a person out. Its easy to get over zealous with friends making plans one night after the other to keep up friendships and connections. However, nothing feels more freeing and enjoyable than knowing you having nothing plan, can come home, put on sweatpants, and relax. Of course, don't underestimate the importance of a night out every once and a while.
So, that is what I've learned so far about being a working mom, especially a working mom in a supervisory healthcare position where there is never technically a day or night off. Its not an easy title to bear, working mother, but it can be done, and happily at that!