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Friday, September 16, 2011

The State of the Household

So I am over a week into this whole parenting thing.  I'm not going to lie... parts have been freakin' awesome and other parts have made me want to cry.  Its not easy and to say I am tired is an understatement.  As I nurse at 3am I constantly wonder why man has evolved so much yet we produce babies that are nocturnal with an every two hour feeding need. 

But everyday it gets a little better.

And when certain things aren't better I tell myself that they will be a little better tomorrow.

And you know what?  They are. 

Everyday Emily is a little more awake and alert.  She recognizes both mine and Shawn's voice when we speak to her.  I love being able to stop a cry instantly by picking her up and holding her close.  And when it comes to crying I actually know what her different cries mean.  I'm relishing the time where she's a little bag of potatoes and I can just tote her little butt around in one arm, but looking forward to when she starts to really develop a personality. 

So, what have I learned in my brief stint of motherhood so far?

  • Above all... sleep when the baby sleeps
  • Breastfeeding does not come naturally and can result in a lot of pain whilst you figure it out.  ...which doesn't make sense considering we are built to do it.
  • People look annoyed when you ask them to wash their hands before touching your baby
  • What everyone says about the smell of a newborn is so true.  Its amazing.  
  • Poop gets everywhere.  And I mean everywhere.
  • My husband holding Emily makes me feel more in love than ever. ..despite his insistence to not stare at him while he does it. 
  • I hate the telephone and have zero desire to talk to anyone on the phone.  I cannot multi-task phone calls and caring for the baby yet.  
  • Leaving the house is a long process.
  • Laundry.  Enough said. 
  • Its still more than worth it!


AmyBean said...

Awww. The first weeks are a whirlwind. :) Multi-tasking phone calls and baby care is a skill that I never acquired. Mine are 5 and 3 now and I still can't do it. I think mothers are designed to only be able to multi-task things that are related to the baby, and other stuff gets pushed aside. But at least when she gets older, the sleeping will probably get more regular and you might be able to stay awake during a nap to talk to people. :)

I know you probably have lots of help, and I don't want to overstep my boundaries since you barely know me, but if you have any questions or need any help with nursing, please feel free to email me. I'll help in any way I can, and if I don't know the answer, I have an "in" with several lactation consultants who will.

Natalie @ Queen of Whirled said...

Don't feel guilty about being a hermit. I spent the first couple of weeks on the couch or in bed.
If you have a local hospital that does a Mommy and Me group I would recommend it. I made so many friends with kids my daughter's age.

Tarah said...

haha! Yes & so true! I too had zero desire to talk on the phone that first month. I was busy and/or sleeping, leave me alone! :)

Cherish each moment, it just flies by, as I'm sure you're already aware!

Solomon's Porch said...

Well, she is definetly a beauty and even though you are tired seems as if you are doing a great job....

All of my girls are grown now and there are so many days I wish I had them as babies again...

Enjoy every (tired) minute of it ...the days and years will fly by....

Anonymous said...

My youngest is now 13 so way past the baby years but the one piece of advice I have kept with me for the past 30+ years of raising children was from my former mother-in-law. She and I remained good friends over the years. But when I had my first baby she gave me this piece of advice which I never forgot: "Spend time with family and less with working and know which battles are worth fighting as your children grow."

Smile Steady said...

She is just precious... I can't wait until I'm right there with you!

kittyhere said...

Emily is even more beautiful in the latest picture. Glad your camera is still in use & not covered in baby poo.

Nolie said...

Seriously cherish every moment. I remember the early days with no sleep just waiting for the days when sleep was better. Then the days of waiting for him to roll over, crawl, say his first words etc. As each of those moments passed I found myself enjoying them but terribly missing the previous stages.

Others keep up the great work mama. She is adorable and I am so glad I found you months ago and have been able to follow along on your journey. Just remind me of my kind words when I start pulling out my hair when #2 is born.

A New England Life said...

Sounds like everything is right on schedule, Jen! I can tell you just love being a mother, but as you say, it can be challenging. Wait until she starts smiling, and then laughing. It's so darned precious!

How I wish I could hold my own girls once again as newborns, but alas the moments are fleeting. I know you're relishing each and every one with your beautiful daughter, Emily. You bring back wonderful memories for me.

A New England Life said...

And take a ton of photos! That's one thing you will never regret ; )

Kerri said...

You made me smile - a knowing smile - a remembering smile. This was a lovely post. Give yourself 6 weeks of breastfeeding; it is like switch - suddenly you don't have to brace yourself when the latch happens. Once again lovely post and thanks for the memories.

Sandy said...

Thanks for sharing your experience so far. Emily is beautiful!

Misty Dawn said...

Oh Jen! She is so absolutely beautiful!

brandilicious said...

"People look annoyed when you ask them to wash their hands before touching your baby"

Why do people think this is weird?? My SiL and I went to get our nails done when my baby was 6 weeks old and quickly stopped in the mall. We came back to my MiL's (who was babysitting) and I asked my SiL to wash her hands because we were just at the mall.

My MiL looked at my SiL and asked, "Was the mall dirty??"


Your baby is gorgeous. Enjoy every precious moment. They grow so fast!

Rachel said...

I haven't had a chance to tell you congratulations yet! So congrats! She is so precious!

Mel said...

Congratulations again! She is beautiful. I'm glad you are enjoying her, they grow so fast! About the weird looks when you ask people to wash their hands before holding her, they will never stop. People will always look at you weird for some of the choices you make regarding your children. Everyone does it different. And only you know what's best for her. Look at you, you already have this parenting thing figured out!

swizzlestickmama said...

Yes, breastfeeding is hard-- and only gets harder until about 1 month in, then it gets easier. But then, baby will go through a growth spurt, and everything changes again! The early months are such a roller coaster! By the 3 month point, things will settle and it will be much smoother. Rest, get help from anyone who offers, and you'll be fine! She is beautiful!

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